At the beginning of each year, the desire to reinvent oneself is felt through resolutions. But rather than striving for perfection or a drastic change dictated by the calendar, it’s possible to take a gentler and more thoughtful approach. We take a look at the issue.
The tradition of resolutions is based on the simple idea of choosing a behaviour or habit that you want to change, in the hope of starting a new chapter. Here are some avenues for reflection to adopt resolutions in line with your aspirations.
1. Do Some Introspection Work
Behind this symbolic gesture is a real exercise in introspection. Taking stock of what makes you happy, who you want to become, and what needs to be adjusted creates space for personal growth. For many, these resolutions boost motivation, bring renewed energy and provide a framework for clarifying goals.
2. Set Realistic Expectations
Resolutions have their share of pitfalls. Studies show that a large proportion of them run out of steam quickly. Many do not survive beyond a few weeks, and only a tiny proportion make it through the entire year. The very idea of associating a significant change with a fixed date – especially in the midst of the holiday whirlwind – helps to create artificial pressure.
The risk is then to set unrealistic expectations and to feel disappointed, or even a drop in self-confidence, when you are unable to maintain them. The frantic pace of everyday life, lack of time or dedicated motivation explains the majority of abandonments.
3. Take a Caring Approach
Giving up on resolutions is not the only option. A gentler and more sustainable approach is to change your perspective. A resolution can be flexible, gradual, and evolve over time, without requiring a strict commitment every day. Rather than aiming for a radical change, it may be wiser to focus on regularity: start little by little, adjust your actions over the weeks, allow yourself breaks and accept that the transformation will take place gradually.
4. Choosing Resolutions for Yourself
It’s also helpful to reflect on the intent behind your desire for change. Self-improvement should not be dictated by the trend of the moment, but by a real and deep need. When a resolution is based on sincere reflection, it becomes a source of commitment and accountability. And even if it is only partially kept, it can generate benefits such as better energy, a greater presence with loved ones, a sense of advancement.
At the end of the day, what matters is not so much the resolution itself as the process that accompanies it. Taking a break to reflect on your habits and desires is already a precious act in itself. Whether you decide to fully embrace resolutions, relax them or even do without them, the important thing is to choose an approach that respects your reality and allows you to move forward with gentleness and authenticity.